Are two people with the same personality type compatible? Especially when that personality type is not known for being warm and affectionate. INTJs are brilliant and thirsty for knowledge, but how compatible are two of them in a relationship together?
People with INTJ Myers-Briggs personality type indicators love to analyze everything around them. They are highly intelligent and their desire to completely understand their chosen topic of interest drives them. Collecting knowledge is their activity of choice and they are typically the people we think of when we hear the term “bookworm”. They are quick-thinking and use logic and insight to solve problems and improve the world around them.
12 Insights about INTJ and INTJ Relationship Compatibility
#1 First impressions
INTJs are very private and struggle with understanding the emotionally-driven intentions of others. If an INTJ is interested in entering into the early stages of a relationship, they are not likely to have a go-to pick-up line ready. They are more apt to simply state their intentions and see if their potential partner is interested.
It is also very likely that they would not pursue a romantic relationship with someone they just met. They are probably going to develop a friendship first that evolves into a romantic connection.
#2 Common interests
People with INTJ personality types love knowledge and love learning about everything. These two will likely have a common desire to learn about the same things. These personalities also love thinking strategically.
While they do enjoy being by themselves, their dates could include watching interesting documentaries, taking trips to the bookstore to find their next read, playing logic or strategy games like chess, or trading card games like Magic the Gathering.
They are also very likely to avoid any type of social gathering or party-like atmosphere, and they would both appreciate a partner that doesn’t wish to partake in those types of events.
#3 Engaging conversation
Another shared common interest that INTJs have is the love of sharing their knowledge and findings. They are super compatible with like-minded personality types in this regard. Their partner will love to share just as much as they would listen.
When it comes to conversation, however, INTJs tend to say exactly what they are thinking with little regard for the impact on their audience. They are also known for shutting down ideas that they think are incorrect or “stupid”. They will have to remember to dial back their critical nature to avoid clashing with their partner.
#4 Flexibility
INTJs flexibility, or lack thereof, could have a big impact on how compatible they are with another INTJ. An inevitable part of relationships is that it takes some degree of change, compromise, and flexibility to make them successful.
INTJs are very focused on their own goals and directions, and they are not willing to change them for another person. This will only work out when paired with another INTJ as long as their direction aligns.
#5 Detail-oriented
These personality types thrive on the little details. They want to know everything about everything and desire to fully understand their topic of interest. They want to master their specialty and strategize a plan to do so.
When it comes to a relationship, this might be something that other personality types would find annoying, but that these two would thrive off of.
#6 Value of logic and reason
If something is illogical or not reasonable, INTJs will either not understand it or will try and fix it. INTJs will zone in on things that don’t make sense and in a couple, will work together to try and solve the issue. Lying or not telling the whole truth to these personality types won’t work very well.
#7 Trust in the relationship
Although it is difficult to lie to INTJs, they also don’t trust very easily. It takes them a long time to get to know someone. Because they are so private, it also takes a long time for someone to truly get to know them as they reveal their true nature very slowly.
This mindset could lead to some mistrust in the relationship, not only because of how slow this process might take between the two of them, but also because they might be judgemental of their partner’s ideas. This criticism would also result in another INTJ losing confidence, drawback, and not wish to share as openly.
#8 Emotional intimacy
While they will speak their minds openly, and share what they are thinking, they will not readily share what they are feeling. INTJs don’t think emotionally, and they will not have an easy time recognizing what their partner’s emotional needs are, or how to address them.
The key to emotional intimacy between an INTJ and INTJ pair is that they must learn what love looks like for their partner. They may not express their love through traditional ways, but they will show love in other ways. Their partner just needs to learn to recognize it as such.
#9 Focus on the task-at-hand
When INTJs have a goal in mind, they will pursue it with laser-like focus. They are not at risk of being tempted away from their task by anything.
As far as compatibility between the two, this could go either way. If each partner is focused on their task, that might be fine. Where it might cause an issue is when one partner desires the attention of the other and is unable to get it.
#10 Independence
According to the Myers-Briggs Foundation, INTJs are very independent. They do not like working with others, they don’t like participating in team sports, and they are not likely to be happy about relying on another person for anything.
This actually would work well in a relationship between two INTJs, they won’t try to interfere in their partner’s activities, and their partner won’t try to interfere in theirs. Just the way they like it.
#11 Energy and rest
When INTJs need rest and to recharge their batteries, they seek independence. As introverts, they value their alone time and would compliment each other in this aspect.
They will be that couple that spends time in the same room together but doing separate activities and loving it. INTJs might spend their time reading, or doing a craft or art project. They may also enjoy solo sports like swimming or weight lifting.
#12 Knowing what they want
If anything can be said about INTJs it is that they know what they want. They are very decisive and once a goal is decided upon, they will pursue it relentlessly.
This can result in a relationship being incredibly successful, or incredibly disastrous. It all depends upon whether the two people desire the same things from each other. If their partner can’t deliver what they are looking for in a partner, the relationship will not succeed.
Conclusion
In an INTJ and INTJ relationship, there is a great opportunity for success and compatibility. These are notoriously difficult people to get along with for a lot of personality types, and they have the potential to do well as a couple. As long as their goals and what they can bring to the relationship aligns, they will be a wonderful match.